A Rule of Life should lead one to holiness through following our God given vocation, by responding to God's will for our lives. "To do God's will because He asks it of us, out of love for Him is to advance on the road to holiness, to seek perfection."
Bl. Mother Teresa's Mission of Charity followed a Rule of Life that was in line with their calling from God, to love God and love their neighbor. The basic schedule saw that those two important priorities were done each and everyday along with the necessities of life. Holly thought that she, and us, could follow their example by ordering our lives around our priorities.
Holly learned from a priest "...that every woman called to be a wife and mother has certain obligations that must be fulfilled; true duties in that they can't be ignored nor neglected."
Those priorities are:
After determine her priorities Holly set up her basic daily schedule. She also set up a "maintenance mode" to be done on days when her regular schedule was not possible but cautions that the "bare bones" schedule should not become the norm.After setting up this Rule, blessing started to show up. The house was in order, her life was becoming more balanced and she was no longer relying on her husband to help with the house work. She scheduled times for all her household needs plus things such as Perpetual Adoration and Confession. She also saw that her children were thriving by having scheduled high quality leisure activities.
There were also spiritual benefits of following the Rule. She was starting to understand the meaning of following God's will. She believes that there are three main things God wants from us:
- to love and obey Him
- to do our daily duties according to the state of life we've been called to
- to be open to the inspirations of the Holy Spirit in our daily lives
In following her daily Rule she knew that she was doing her best to live for God. "... a Mother's Rule is sanctifying, because by it we do what we ought to do. It's a great means of mortification."Now is the time to start setting up our own Rule. Start by making a list of all your daily activities, the things that need to be done. Then write down a time slot in your day when each of these things should get done. For me it is:
4:00 am- wake, dress, bring down laundry & start dishwasher
4:30 am- Morning offering, Scripture reading
5:00 am- exercise
5:30 am- exercise
6:00 am- shower & dress
6:30 am- make breakfast
7:00 am- wake & dress children
7:15am- eat breakfast & prayer & Saint stories with children/breakfast cleanup
7:45am- make beds / swish & swish swipe
8:15am- walk DS to school
11:30am- make & eat lunch
12:00pm- lunch clean up
12:30pm- get DD settled in for nap
2:45pm- get DS from school
3:00pm- snack & homework
4:00pm- Play Outside
4:45pm- come in & wash up/ set up children with activity while I make dinner
5:00pm- make dinner
6:00pm- eat dinner/dinner cleanup
7:00pm- tubbies, stories & tuck-ins
7:30pm- spend time with DH
8:15pm- Wash up for bed
8:30pm- evening prayer/read
9:00pm- LIGHTS OUT!!!
The above is my very basic schedule I don use a more detailed schedule and will post it later.
Hope this helps get everyone thinking!