Hi Candy. I'm sorry that i'm asking you this (and i am in no way trying to cause you more grief)
but why do you have to study for a long time to become a Catholic. Why do you have to have communion and sorts.
I ask this because my dear friend has recently married a Catholic man and he wants her to become catholic to.
What she is learning goes against everything she has learnt from the Bible. (We have Always been Bible Believing Christians)
Her Husband can't answer her because he doesn't know. Infact, Praise be to the Lord he is also starting to question his faith
(I think at the moment he's afraid to go against his mother,,poor thing!)
You are such an inspiration, and i know you will always tell the truth for the Lord.
I really do apologise and understand completely if this goes no further than me asking you.
Much Love being sent your way and God Bless you and your wonderful Family.
I hope that you will happen across this answer someday. I realize that I am not Candy, but I have been a Catholic for over 40 years, my grandfather was a convert, I have some friends who were converts, and I speak annually to our parish RCIA class - so I might know a little bit about it!
Would you buy a car without doing a little research? Or buy a major appliance? Would you marry a guy without spending a little time with him first? The answer is probably of course not! You would want to do some investigation and put some time into it before making a major investment with your time or money!
So why would you want your friend to join the Catholic church without putting some time into learning what it is all about and living it for a while? It makes no sense.
Don't be so sure that your friend's husband's questioning and studying is going to take him away from his Catholic faith. My husband and I studied our way right back into the heart of the church. Many Protestant ministers have done the same. So praise God indeed - questioning what one has "learnt" can be a good thing!
I thought this site had a good answer:
Once I have decided to join the Catholic Church, why might it take 1-2 years? That seems like a long time.
When someone comes forward with an interest in joining the Catholic Church, that interest is then to be joined with knowledge about the Church's traditions and teachings, as well as a sufficient experience of the Catholic faith community. Joining the Catholic Church is not about passing a test on Catholicism; rather it is about learning and living the Gospel of Jesus in the context of the parish and wider Catholic community. This takes time and it is suggested that one wishing to join the Church experience at least one full liturgical year of the Catholic faith community.
Adult baptisms are celebrated each year at the Easter Vigil (the Saturday night before Easter Sunday), which occurs each year in the Spring. If one comes to the parish in December with a desire to be baptized and to join the Church, the following Easter would only be approximately 4 months away. This is not sufficient time for someone to experience the fullness of the Catholic faith Church and community. This "December seeker" would be welcomed into the RCIA process, would journey with a fellow group of seekers each week, and would most likely be baptized and initiated into the Catholic Church approximately 16 months later. If one comes to the parish in the spring having made a decision to join the church, depending on the level of preparation needed, that person may be deemed ready to be initiated into the church at the following Easter, which would be approximately 12 months later.
The goal in joining the Catholic Church is not to be baptized, although the Sacrament of Baptism is a priceless gift from our God. The goal is to grow in your love and awareness of God, to begin or build on your relationship with Jesus Christ, and to learn how the Catholic faith community lives out this call. Baptism is part of the journey but not a finish line to sprint towards. Joining the Church is a process of shaping our hearts, minds, and spirits so they look more like God's. The rich exploration of faith is not a race, but a journey to be savored, reflected upon, and celebrated.
The RCIA people I have met enjoyed the journey and the process. I hope some of our converted Catholics will share some of their experiences in this thread.
God Bless you Maria and I hope you will pray for your friend and her husband (and try not to meddle in their marriage!)
RCIA Manual/Archdiocese of Military