She starts out with Psalm 127:
1Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
2It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.
3Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
4As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
5Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Verse one sets the tone for the whole Psalm - 'Except the LORD build...' We have people today with big, beautiful houses, but the Lord was not with them in building their homes. Their homes are not blessed. Cities and areas where the LORD is not allowed to reign lose blessings. (Thank God Christ will soon come back and reign.) It is not good to stay up late, and get up early, else you are not taking the sleep and rest that God desires for you. Children are 'an heritage of the LORD' if 'the LORD build the house.' Certainly there are pagan families who have very large families; I've met some. Was the Lord in that? There are also very large Christian families, where the parents are like baby-making factories, yet there is no joy, no rest, and utter turmoil in their family life. Did THEY decide to have child after child after child after child without the Lord's being in it?
There are a couple of telling things in here. First of all I believe and I always thought other Christians believed this as well, that only God can knit a child in the womb and only God creates and gives a soul. Whenever a Baby is made, God is in it. Even a baby conceived from rape is a child created and loved by God.
Secondly, utter turmoil and lack of rest does not mean that a family is not Godly, or unhappy or that God isn't with them. Everyone knows how much Candy values orderliness and cleanliness. That's great. God bless her for that. But it doesn't mean that other moms and dads who struggle with that are somehow less Godly. Good housekeeping can sometimes, in my opinion, become its own false idol.
Certainly baby-making is not 100% up to God, else what are non-Christians doing having babies, with some of those poor babies being abused?While I agree that parents co-participate with God in baby making I reiterate that God is definitely 100% involved with each and every conception.
God gave us free will in all aspects in our lives, and that includes procreation.That is absolutely true and with free will comes responsibility. But it also means that not every choice we make is good, holy and pleasing to God. It simply means that He allows us to have free will. Some choices have consequences and most times God lets us suffer with them.
Very True. God makes each individual soul separately for each new life conceived. Prior to that, each of us was just a thought in the mind of God.
Let's get something straight - there are not these eternal, disembodied spririts floating around hoping that you have a baby so that that spirit can have a life.
That's not how it works. NOT having children is NOT a sin! We are not 'preventing a life that could have been' by deciding to not have children.Actually, the Catholic church comes very close to teaching this same thing. Children are a gift from God and God loves to bless with life and bless abundantly! But when parents discern that they are not in a position to accept a new life or must postpone a pregnancy the church teaches that it must be for a serious matter. The purpose of marriage is to raise up Godly offspring. To forgo conceiving and raising up Godly children is not something to be taken lightly.
This in my opinion is simply Candy theology and I wouldn't be surprised if she ticks off a lot of people who read it. "The Lord built the house" whether one hears a little voice or not, or if a baby is simply conceived after a romantic Saturday night or by a couple who thought they were past conceiving. I think Candy is trying to say here that only planned children from a "still small voice" are conceived of the Lord? And that of course is ridiculous.
However when one has children when they hear the still, small voice of the Lord, then when they produce seed after their own kind, they know 'the LORD built the house.' All four of my children are here, because my husband and I both felt that God wanted us to have each child. Every conception was God-led.
Then we have a paragraph that falls under the TMI department, but it sounds to me that it's up to Eric whether conception occurs or not because Onanism is a guy thing. And if Candy isn't on board with that then it couldn't possibly be from God. It's a very twisted piece of logic.
Someone commented on one of my quiverfull posts, and said that she knew the Lord wanted her to have three children. She had her three, and when she and her husband tried to have more, it was miscarriage after miscarriage. I believe this woman and her husband were hearing from the Lord as well. They have three beautiful children.This part blows me away. I am the mother of a stillborn son, born when I was 42. I could have taken, and indeed I think that is the message of the culture that that was my cue to stop having babies and being open to new life. We went on to conceive at age 45 and have a beautiful baby girl that I have way too many pictures of in my Flickr account. Miscarried and stillborn children are still part of God's plan for us. Those little souls pray for us and are there to greet us in the end. I know of a woman who had ten miscarriages and ten live births inbetween. A miscarriage or stillbirth isn't necessarily a punishment, or a call to not be open to the gift of new life.
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I'm an only child, and I can guarantee you that all by myself I filled my parents' quiver! :-P
Sex is NOT purely for procreation.
Sex is not purley for recreation and pleasure either. The Catholic church teaches that they are entertwined and that it is sinful to deliberately separate one from the other and why the church calls contraception intrisically evil as well as prohibiting certain fertility treatments.
Other links and articles on the topic in my del.icio.us files.