Living in the inner city, I am accustomed to hearing the F word (the one that rhymes with a certain aquatic bird that goes quack quack!) a lot. In fact folks around here can use it in just about every part of speech - noun, adverb, adjective, I even heard it as a preposition a few times. It turns out that little four little word can be used quite creatively!
But I told my kids it's sort of the sign of a limited vocabulary. I mean with the thousands of words in the English vocabulary, certainly we could find some that more aptly fit what we're trying to say (and improve our SAT scores at the same time!) So the F bomb doesn't get dropped here too often and even the neighbor kids have taken to try to impress me with their expanded vocabularies (one child, I kid you not, even looked up words to work into the conversations in my presence - I thought that was kind of cute!)
Nonetheless, there are times when even the F word is required. For example, when a crazed young black man started ranting and hitting things and people on my street and my husband went out (unarmed) to confront him and hopefully calm him down, he had to use it to at least get on the same page with this guy. Things de-escalated from there.
Yesterday, I was surprised to learn that Sallie thought I had cussed in an e-mail. She not only wrote it here but on her blog she writes:
If you are a long time reader, or perhaps you were just introduced to my blog in the last week or so, you may have seen some comments and/or notice my posting about having to delete some things. You may have even read in my posts where I stated I also got some emails I had to delete. I don't know about you, but foul language and accusations isn't something I am accustomed to reading in my daily email box and so I've resorted to just deleting anything I get now without responding.
I am pretty careful in e-mails and in blogging to NOT use vulgarities in my writing. In fact, I sort of tease one of my favorite liberal bloggers because she uses them all of the time! So I went back to see, what the heck did I write?
In our e-mail back and forth Sallie wrote:
Look, you are pissed at me because I linked to someones blog. That's my choice.
Well there's language you don't read every day on flowery Christian women's blogs. I don't care for the word myself and prefer my boys use the term urinate or pee, but sometimes even this word has a purpose in the vernacular for expressing extreme anger or annoyance. In the adult world it probably gets more use than it should but it certainly is expressive. Usage of that word I think gives a certain frankness, and "let's get down to business" type of attitude. I don't have any problems with that.
With that in mind as our e-mails evolved (or devolved) and it was clear we weren't ever going to be exchanging Christmas cards or going out for coffee in the near future,I decided to be equally frank in my final remarks:
I'm not interested in hearing from you any more about what an angry and bitter bitch you think I am
The B word! (insert dramatic music here). Please note however that I didn't refer to HER as a B, but rather that I felt she thought I was! Provocative words? Sure. An attention getter? Absolutely. But it wasn't an abundant use of foul language or "cussing" that perhaps Sallie has tried to lead everyone to believe I used via e-mail and in her comments section. I sort of figured if a gal wasn't opposed to using the word "pissed" in her correspondence, reading the word "bitch" particularly if it wasn't being applied to her, shouldn't be a big deal. I thought it was probably part of her vernacular! But in this part of the blogosophere, I guess this kind of stuff is always a big deal!